I think a big part of the problem is people saw the increase in anti-sex purity culture and tried to combat that by swinging wildly in the other direction. Like yes, kill the voice in your head that says sex is always dirty and bad but also understand that if something doesn't have sex and isn't horny that isn't automatically bad thing either. We can have both. We can have gay characters that just hold hands and still show love. We can have women that are unabashedly horny.
Just don't act like one or the other is "more correct" and that if something is centered around sex that makes it more "authentic". Sex should be a neutral thing! And having it or not, desiring it or not, should be simply parts of the human experience. Neither should be held up as the "right" thing.